The only person who can change your life

It's a bit weird to admit but it was only about 5 years ago that I truly realized and accepted the fact that I and I alone, am the only one who can make any change in my life. It's like you literally go from being a baby who needs to have a diaper changed every 5 minutes to a 10 year old who has to be reminded to look both ways before crossing a street and then suddenly you're 18 learning to drive (okay, okay, 16 for most normal people) and after that, you're lucky if you can survive 2 months on your own without starving to death from lack of proper cooking skills (thankfully, I love to cook). But then, the reality of life sets in. Cooking skills, people skills, driving skills aside, the thing you begin to question most is LIFE. How will you ever make it in the world? And what does it even mean to "make it"?

I guess for most people "making it" means to function like a normal human being while out in public, having a job and remembering to make doctor appointments so you don't unexpectedly catch Cholera and die (no but seriously, anyone remember playing Oregon Trail?). "Making it" is more than fine and it does take a lot of determination and responsibility just to get that far. But what if you're not just satisfied with working at the same job for 30 years and then retiring? Then, that's when you have to fully accept that you're the only one who can make the change- any change, whatever change. Take take take every opportunity that comes your way or create your own opportunities.

If we all followed our dreams, we'd all (hopefully) be much happier within ourselves and that happiness would spread onto others. And with that internal happiness, we'd have the power to help others realize their dreams and it would be a never ending cycle (okay okay, life will never be that simple but you get my point, right?)

If you have a personal goal in mind, you have to follow it. Sometimes it's so hard to believe in ourselves but really, why is that? Just because we might fail? Just because we worry too much what other people, who we probably never even see more than once a year, will think of us? Just because we don't know where to start? I don't know what it is, but honestly I don't have time to figure it out and neither do you. I've wasted too much of my life holding back or not trying hard enough. I was young and naive but one day, well, I'll be old and not naive, so from now on, whenever I feel like crawling into a hole and giving up, here's what I must remember:

"If you're searching for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror."

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  1. LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!! <3 <3 Very well said Victoria!! :)


  2. This is so true! Career wise I still have no idea what I'm doing with my life but I am happy and thankful for the people who I have around me. I think a lot of us worry about what other people will think or say but we definitely need to stop giving that so much attention and just do what we need to do to achieve our dreams and goals! Great post!

  3. Girl I couldn't love this post anymore - so beautifully written and SO bloody true!!! I've started to realise this too, there's a couple of things I want to change and can only do that myself and this has given me the boost I need so thank you!

    Hayley xo

    1. Thank you so much, Hayley. I'm so glad it encouraged you a bit! :)





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